How to Understand Others 1

English Translation

Dad takes out a piece of paper. A tree was drawn at the front, while a bird was drawn in the face.

Dad shows both sides of the paper to his <2year old daughter, puts the tree-side of the paper toward the daughter and asks, “what does dad see?”

Daughter answers, “tree.”

Dad tries the same experiment with his older daughter, the answer is “dad sees a bird.”

Quick Conclusion

To communicate effectively, we have to figure out what people actually see first, instead of assuming others have all the information that we know.

Original Chinese Text

陈铭举了这么一个例子。

他拿出一张纸，正面画着一棵树，背面画着一只鸟。让他不满两岁的小女儿看，这面是树，那面是鸟，然后把有树的那一面正对着女儿，问她：爸爸看到的是什么？

女儿回答：树。

同一个试验，问大女儿，大女儿回答：爸爸看到的是鸟。

陈铭想要告诉你的是：小于两岁的孩子，她还没有产生自我以外的意识，她不晓得思考别人看到了什么，别人在想什么。